Your legacy is determined by what you choose to care about and and not care about. Pain is a necessary part of life and you often get to choose what your pain or pile of crap is. Always strive to doubt your conclusions and challenge your values so that you may continually grow.
How you handle conversations has a huge impact on your relationships. Ensuring safety in conversations is essential to allow for the real issues to be discussed. If there's a safe environment you can talk about anything.