Your legacy is determined by what you choose to care about and and not care about. Pain is a necessary part of life and you often get to choose what your pain or pile of crap is. Always strive to doubt your conclusions and challenge your values so that you may continually grow.
Deep work, the ability to work in a flow state and produce both a quality and quantity of work, is under attack in the current age of distraction that we're in but it has never been more valuable given the extreme technical nature of the knowledge work that most are undertaking. In addition, it provides a greater meaning to work and life because of the richness and focusedness of the experiences. Lastly, it leads to a more rounded life because of the focus on what is most valuable and the discipline to shun the innessential.
Owning your situation, in life and work, allows you to determine your future rather than let circumstances determine it. Leadership is simple but not easy given the numerous dichotomies in leadership. Effectively communicating not only the what but also the why is important so that even the lowest level understands the greater picture to a degree. Through constant dedication, discipline, and continous improvement, individuals and teams can attain the ultimate freedom: intrinsic self-discipline.
How you handle conversations has a huge impact on your relationships. Ensuring safety in conversations is essential to allow for the real issues to be discussed. If there's a safe environment you can talk about anything.
By asking your peers and or subordinates the right questions and listening you gain greater insight and they learn more than if you just talked for the duration or engaged in random social chit chat. The words that you use to formulate questions makes a big difference as does the sequence in which you ask particular questions. Realize that you do not have to answer _"yes"_ to questions and that it is your job to get buyin and more than tacit agreement for anything that you ask of someone - that way you know that you're on the same page.
You know those “favorite” members of your team? Like the one who’s seemingly insipid, relentless, and endless communications appear to be tailored to cut your ego in half with every keystroke and are about as welcome as the smell of burning toast on your way out the door in the morning? You think they believe everything that they say should be written down and preserved for future generations and that you should feel privileged to be lacerated by their “feedback.